Need reall help pleassee :”"”((( gf issue please help experienced ppl!!!!?need ure personal opinion!?
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ime going to stop u right there!!! i no this is a long *** question! but please read the whole thing !:((
really think about what would u do if you have bin with your gf for almost a year and she cheated on u during the first 3 mouths with several guys
and she didn’t tell u till 7 months into the relationship & the reason she told u is because she just wanted to come clean, and u became devastated because here the whole time u thought she was being completely honest
*and of course I am talking in 3rd person but im talking about me and my gf but i want u to get a feel of my situation and in the following link is a question i asked on why girls become hoes and in this question it was really me referring about my gf so if u must click on the link to better understand the type of girl I am with then please do so.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100821161420AAZ9S9I
anyway so u found out she lied to u many times and this contradicted the times she said she was truthful and honest & frankly it maid u feel disgusted knowing the things your gf did. but she admits to her wrong doings and said that this was back when she had self esteem issue and wanted attention and went about it the wrong way and she knows she was really stupid & after those 3 mouths she told herself she would change because she hated herself for what she did and she fell in loved u & she didn’t want to tell u because she new u would leave her & that’s why she didn’t tell u before and ever since those 3 months u no shes bin perfect to you so u wonder is this for reals? can her perspective on sex and loyalty change so quick? and if so would you give her another chance so she could prove to you that shes changed. i mean it must get u mad that shes kept this from u and that she cheated on u.* and personally what i don’t understand is why she cheated?i understand how the whole self esteem and lack of attention affected her before i came into her life but if she claims she wanted affection and attention and love as an exuse to cheat on me uh well i get to thinking uhh HELLOOO!!! that’s why im here i gave her all of that i gave her day by day attention i was sweet and carrying and loving and i gave her all the affection she needed not to mention we were sleeping together already so basically i gave her all ! yet she went and cheated on me?! :”(. what do you think :/ ? and believe me i gave her a lot of attention we would talk all day and normally i wouldn’t do that so i wouldn’t smother her and she wouldn’t get tired of me but she instigated the conversation and she loved talking to me all day. i was all she ever needed. and i no this because even when she cheated on me she liked me more than any other guy obviously cuz she didn’t leave me for any of them.
by the way her parents divorced at an early age & i no this might have affected her greatly she never really had the father figure .
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February 8th, 2012 at 1:27 am
I wish I had the answers for you, but I swayed back and forth as I read what you wrote. I will tell you what possibilities went thru my mind. First, a child of divorce may have some deep-seated issues that aren’t easily fixed. Just because you were perfect and giving her all she needed doesn’t mean that her issues are healed, especially low self-esteem. Her cheating isn’t about you. You aren’t lacking, she is. When she cheated on you, she may not have been in love with you and now is and does want to start with as clean slate. I think that telling you, however, was a selfish and immature choice for her to feel better without regard for the knife embedded in your gut that will always be there. I think that cheaters are pretty much cheaters, but I know that some people may reform. Statistics are rather high when it comes to cheating. Most people don’t cheat.
Ask her what has changed. Why did she cheat then, and how has she changed since. What about her now will mean that she won’t cheat again. If she hasn’t addressed her short-comings, she may not be a different person.
Finally, you have to let go of the pain if you want to be with her – which of course you will because you’re in love – then you have to really forgive and try to remember less. Constant reminders and comments can push her away. Either dump her or really start over. Assume she won’t cheat again and live that way. Good luck.
February 8th, 2012 at 1:27 am
I wish I had the answers for you, but I swayed back and forth as I read what you wrote. I will tell you what possibilities went thru my mind. First, a child of divorce may have some deep-seated issues that aren’t easily fixed. Just because you were perfect and giving her all she needed doesn’t mean that her issues are healed, especially low self-esteem. Her cheating isn’t about you. You aren’t lacking, she is. When she cheated on you, she may not have been in love with you and now is and does want to start with as clean slate. I think that telling you, however, was a selfish and immature choice for her to feel better without regard for the knife embedded in your gut that will always be there. I think that cheaters are pretty much cheaters, but I know that some people may reform. Statistics are rather high when it comes to cheating. Most people don’t cheat.
Ask her what has changed. Why did she cheat then, and how has she changed since. What about her now will mean that she won’t cheat again. If she hasn’t addressed her short-comings, she may not be a different person.
Finally, you have to let go of the pain if you want to be with her – which of course you will because you’re in love – then you have to really forgive and try to remember less. Constant reminders and comments can push her away. Either dump her or really start over. Assume she won’t cheat again and live that way. Good luck.
February 8th, 2012 at 1:27 am
k… wait a sec… u need to call her.. ask her to meet u at a park or somewhere quiet and peaceful… and take her in ur arms.. and hold her close to u and say I love you.. now if u mean it.. well if u dont then cry abt this cuz the way i see it she is jus tryin to avoid a break up later when things might get all so close…. if u love her.. then i suggest… jus let her know u trust her still.. and its k.. and u will always love her.. and then finally forgive and forget her.. k????
February 8th, 2012 at 1:27 am
k… wait a sec… u need to call her.. ask her to meet u at a park or somewhere quiet and peaceful… and take her in ur arms.. and hold her close to u and say I love you.. now if u mean it.. well if u dont then cry abt this cuz the way i see it she is jus tryin to avoid a break up later when things might get all so close…. if u love her.. then i suggest… jus let her know u trust her still.. and its k.. and u will always love her.. and then finally forgive and forget her.. k????