http://artificialdiscreplacement.org/uncategorized/need-reall-help-pleassee-gf-issue-please-help-experienced-pplneed-ure-personal-opinion/08/25/2010/ A resource for disc replacement information Sat, 03 Apr 2010 21:52:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 http://artificialdiscreplacement.org/uncategorized/need-reall-help-pleassee-gf-issue-please-help-experienced-pplneed-ure-personal-opinion/08/25/2010//comment-page-1#comment-2262 bud Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 http://artificialdiscreplacement.org/uncategorized/need-reall-help-pleassee-gf-issue-please-help-experienced-pplneed-ure-personal-opinion/08/25/2010/#comment-2262 I wish I had the answers for you, but I swayed back and forth as I read what you wrote. I will tell you what possibilities went thru my mind. First, a child of divorce may have some deep-seated issues that aren't easily fixed. Just because you were perfect and giving her all she needed doesn't mean that her issues are healed, especially low self-esteem. Her cheating isn't about you. You aren't lacking, she is. When she cheated on you, she may not have been in love with you and now is and does want to start with as clean slate. I think that telling you, however, was a selfish and immature choice for her to feel better without regard for the knife embedded in your gut that will always be there. I think that cheaters are pretty much cheaters, but I know that some people may reform. Statistics are rather high when it comes to cheating. Most people don't cheat.<br> Ask her what has changed. Why did she cheat then, and how has she changed since. What about her now will mean that she won't cheat again. If she hasn't addressed her short-comings, she may not be a different person. <br> Finally, you have to let go of the pain if you want to be with her - which of course you will because you're in love - then you have to really forgive and try to remember less. Constant reminders and comments can push her away. Either dump her or really start over. Assume she won't cheat again and live that way. Good luck. I wish I had the answers for you, but I swayed back and forth as I read what you wrote. I will tell you what possibilities went thru my mind. First, a child of divorce may have some deep-seated issues that aren’t easily fixed. Just because you were perfect and giving her all she needed doesn’t mean that her issues are healed, especially low self-esteem. Her cheating isn’t about you. You aren’t lacking, she is. When she cheated on you, she may not have been in love with you and now is and does want to start with as clean slate. I think that telling you, however, was a selfish and immature choice for her to feel better without regard for the knife embedded in your gut that will always be there. I think that cheaters are pretty much cheaters, but I know that some people may reform. Statistics are rather high when it comes to cheating. Most people don’t cheat.
Ask her what has changed. Why did she cheat then, and how has she changed since. What about her now will mean that she won’t cheat again. If she hasn’t addressed her short-comings, she may not be a different person.
Finally, you have to let go of the pain if you want to be with her – which of course you will because you’re in love – then you have to really forgive and try to remember less. Constant reminders and comments can push her away. Either dump her or really start over. Assume she won’t cheat again and live that way. Good luck.

]]> http://artificialdiscreplacement.org/uncategorized/need-reall-help-pleassee-gf-issue-please-help-experienced-pplneed-ure-personal-opinion/08/25/2010//comment-page-1#comment-2263 bud Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 http://artificialdiscreplacement.org/uncategorized/need-reall-help-pleassee-gf-issue-please-help-experienced-pplneed-ure-personal-opinion/08/25/2010/#comment-2263 I wish I had the answers for you, but I swayed back and forth as I read what you wrote. I will tell you what possibilities went thru my mind. First, a child of divorce may have some deep-seated issues that aren't easily fixed. Just because you were perfect and giving her all she needed doesn't mean that her issues are healed, especially low self-esteem. Her cheating isn't about you. You aren't lacking, she is. When she cheated on you, she may not have been in love with you and now is and does want to start with as clean slate. I think that telling you, however, was a selfish and immature choice for her to feel better without regard for the knife embedded in your gut that will always be there. I think that cheaters are pretty much cheaters, but I know that some people may reform. Statistics are rather high when it comes to cheating. Most people don't cheat.<br> Ask her what has changed. Why did she cheat then, and how has she changed since. What about her now will mean that she won't cheat again. If she hasn't addressed her short-comings, she may not be a different person. <br> Finally, you have to let go of the pain if you want to be with her - which of course you will because you're in love - then you have to really forgive and try to remember less. Constant reminders and comments can push her away. Either dump her or really start over. Assume she won't cheat again and live that way. Good luck. I wish I had the answers for you, but I swayed back and forth as I read what you wrote. I will tell you what possibilities went thru my mind. First, a child of divorce may have some deep-seated issues that aren’t easily fixed. Just because you were perfect and giving her all she needed doesn’t mean that her issues are healed, especially low self-esteem. Her cheating isn’t about you. You aren’t lacking, she is. When she cheated on you, she may not have been in love with you and now is and does want to start with as clean slate. I think that telling you, however, was a selfish and immature choice for her to feel better without regard for the knife embedded in your gut that will always be there. I think that cheaters are pretty much cheaters, but I know that some people may reform. Statistics are rather high when it comes to cheating. Most people don’t cheat.
Ask her what has changed. Why did she cheat then, and how has she changed since. What about her now will mean that she won’t cheat again. If she hasn’t addressed her short-comings, she may not be a different person.
Finally, you have to let go of the pain if you want to be with her – which of course you will because you’re in love – then you have to really forgive and try to remember less. Constant reminders and comments can push her away. Either dump her or really start over. Assume she won’t cheat again and live that way. Good luck.

]]> http://artificialdiscreplacement.org/uncategorized/need-reall-help-pleassee-gf-issue-please-help-experienced-pplneed-ure-personal-opinion/08/25/2010//comment-page-1#comment-2264 Bala Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 http://artificialdiscreplacement.org/uncategorized/need-reall-help-pleassee-gf-issue-please-help-experienced-pplneed-ure-personal-opinion/08/25/2010/#comment-2264 k... wait a sec... u need to call her.. ask her to meet u at a park or somewhere quiet and peaceful... and take her in ur arms.. and hold her close to u and say I love you.. now if u mean it.. well if u dont then cry abt this cuz the way i see it she is jus tryin to avoid a break up later when things might get all so close.... if u love her.. then i suggest... jus let her know u trust her still.. and its k.. and u will always love her.. and then finally forgive and forget her.. k???? k… wait a sec… u need to call her.. ask her to meet u at a park or somewhere quiet and peaceful… and take her in ur arms.. and hold her close to u and say I love you.. now if u mean it.. well if u dont then cry abt this cuz the way i see it she is jus tryin to avoid a break up later when things might get all so close…. if u love her.. then i suggest… jus let her know u trust her still.. and its k.. and u will always love her.. and then finally forgive and forget her.. k????

]]> http://artificialdiscreplacement.org/uncategorized/need-reall-help-pleassee-gf-issue-please-help-experienced-pplneed-ure-personal-opinion/08/25/2010//comment-page-1#comment-2265 Bala Wed, 30 Nov -0001 00:00:00 +0000 http://artificialdiscreplacement.org/uncategorized/need-reall-help-pleassee-gf-issue-please-help-experienced-pplneed-ure-personal-opinion/08/25/2010/#comment-2265 k... wait a sec... u need to call her.. ask her to meet u at a park or somewhere quiet and peaceful... and take her in ur arms.. and hold her close to u and say I love you.. now if u mean it.. well if u dont then cry abt this cuz the way i see it she is jus tryin to avoid a break up later when things might get all so close.... if u love her.. then i suggest... jus let her know u trust her still.. and its k.. and u will always love her.. and then finally forgive and forget her.. k???? k… wait a sec… u need to call her.. ask her to meet u at a park or somewhere quiet and peaceful… and take her in ur arms.. and hold her close to u and say I love you.. now if u mean it.. well if u dont then cry abt this cuz the way i see it she is jus tryin to avoid a break up later when things might get all so close…. if u love her.. then i suggest… jus let her know u trust her still.. and its k.. and u will always love her.. and then finally forgive and forget her.. k????

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